The classic version of this is not “they agree to an open marriage”; it’s the husband, desperate to cheat, begs and pleads with the wife, who eventually tearfully gives in. He’s delighted, thinking he can now get Amy from accounts (who it turns out isn’t actually interested in being a married man’s side piece). Meanwhile the wife as you say thinks “righto,” gets on Bumble and has a string of lovers. Reddit is absolutely full of the men talking with regret of their decision.
I've seen women win the other way, too. The family opens its doors to a third woman, often because the husband wants to explore bisexuality and the wife is enchanted with the idea of polyamory (or pretends to be). The new woman, who doesn't have to contribute to the mortgage or do the dishes or change the diapers or appease the in-laws, devotes all her free time to pleasing the husband. Within the year, the original wife (plus kids and responsibilities) is kicked out the door while the new woman scores the house and the man. And she sure as hell ain't gonna add another girl. She knows how the game works so she slams the doors of bisexuality closed behind her! Women can be cuckoos!
With the advent of genetic testing some really interesting things have been confirmed about human behavior. It turns out that a fair proportion (not large, but not negligible) of "trophy wives" who married unattractive or older rich men had kids who, it turns out, were sired not by her spouse but by someone else (the pool boy springs to mind since the era of the milkman has vanished). This lines up with behavioral studies in Red-winged Blackbirds. There, researchers caught and vasectomized the most dominant male blackbirds wit the best territories before the females showed up. Lo and behold, the females who mated with these males still laid fertilized eggs!
Evolutionary biology tells us that in many mating systems a female's investment is in the off-spring, the male's investment is in the mate. Females want what's best for their off-spring, whether it be lots of resources to raise them or good genes. And if they can get both through a bit of extra-curricular dalliance why, all the better! Hence males are driven by parental uncertainty; thus we evolved jealousy, protectiveness, etc. etc.
It is truly a sign that we have overcome our evolutionary tendencies and become enlightened beings no longer at the whim of biology when the males of our species willingly supress their evolutionary programming in order to better ennable female evolutionary programming!
In the end, the open relationship isn’t a lifestyle choice so much as a masterclass in unintended consequences: a bold social experiment that reliably concludes with one person having a calendar problem and the other developing a sudden, very sincere passion for self-care—with, as you so aptly put it, their dominant hand.
All of this is only true of course if the woman is under 35 years of age. And of course once she hits 50, she becomes invisible. Although folk should beware - women in their 50s are dangerous. They know so much and care so little....
Hmm, I don’t know about that. I knew a couple who had an open relationship in their late 40s; the wife got a lot more action because there are quite a few 55-and-up men who are happy to have low-commitment sex with a reasonably attractive woman ten years younger than them. The husband had a hard time, because relatively few women of any age are interested in low-commitment sex with a fat, sweaty middle-aged man.
🤣😂 yeah fair point....I looked up Honey Birdette. Fck me £120 for a bra! 🤣😂 Even my hubs isn't worth spending that for....they don't do my size anyway.
This is very funny and captures the reality of a great deal of open relationships, but in my experience you are mischaracterizing the attitude of the lonely man. In most cases he is, if not exactly happy for his wife's carnal successes relative to his own, then at least firmly convinced he has no exclusive claim to her. In other words, he didn't open up the relationship strictly for the pussy, he did it because he sincerely believed that's what open-minded tolerant people should do.
Only in Islington. Yorkshiremen wouldn't stand for this kind of nonsense...well, maybe the wet libtards inhabiting York, but certainly none of the men I've dated or know now.
It’s obvious that I lead a very dull life. I had never heard of Honey Birdette and had to look it up on Brave Search. Thank you, Christopher, for broadening my horizons.
The classic version of this is not “they agree to an open marriage”; it’s the husband, desperate to cheat, begs and pleads with the wife, who eventually tearfully gives in. He’s delighted, thinking he can now get Amy from accounts (who it turns out isn’t actually interested in being a married man’s side piece). Meanwhile the wife as you say thinks “righto,” gets on Bumble and has a string of lovers. Reddit is absolutely full of the men talking with regret of their decision.
I must read!
This is a Seinfeld lost episode, no doubt about that.
I've seen women win the other way, too. The family opens its doors to a third woman, often because the husband wants to explore bisexuality and the wife is enchanted with the idea of polyamory (or pretends to be). The new woman, who doesn't have to contribute to the mortgage or do the dishes or change the diapers or appease the in-laws, devotes all her free time to pleasing the husband. Within the year, the original wife (plus kids and responsibilities) is kicked out the door while the new woman scores the house and the man. And she sure as hell ain't gonna add another girl. She knows how the game works so she slams the doors of bisexuality closed behind her! Women can be cuckoos!
With the advent of genetic testing some really interesting things have been confirmed about human behavior. It turns out that a fair proportion (not large, but not negligible) of "trophy wives" who married unattractive or older rich men had kids who, it turns out, were sired not by her spouse but by someone else (the pool boy springs to mind since the era of the milkman has vanished). This lines up with behavioral studies in Red-winged Blackbirds. There, researchers caught and vasectomized the most dominant male blackbirds wit the best territories before the females showed up. Lo and behold, the females who mated with these males still laid fertilized eggs!
Evolutionary biology tells us that in many mating systems a female's investment is in the off-spring, the male's investment is in the mate. Females want what's best for their off-spring, whether it be lots of resources to raise them or good genes. And if they can get both through a bit of extra-curricular dalliance why, all the better! Hence males are driven by parental uncertainty; thus we evolved jealousy, protectiveness, etc. etc.
It is truly a sign that we have overcome our evolutionary tendencies and become enlightened beings no longer at the whim of biology when the males of our species willingly supress their evolutionary programming in order to better ennable female evolutionary programming!
Thank the gods I'm a caveman...😂
You got me laughing out loud.
In the end, the open relationship isn’t a lifestyle choice so much as a masterclass in unintended consequences: a bold social experiment that reliably concludes with one person having a calendar problem and the other developing a sudden, very sincere passion for self-care—with, as you so aptly put it, their dominant hand.
I'll have to look up that honey thing.
All of this is only true of course if the woman is under 35 years of age. And of course once she hits 50, she becomes invisible. Although folk should beware - women in their 50s are dangerous. They know so much and care so little....
Hmm, I don’t know about that. I knew a couple who had an open relationship in their late 40s; the wife got a lot more action because there are quite a few 55-and-up men who are happy to have low-commitment sex with a reasonably attractive woman ten years younger than them. The husband had a hard time, because relatively few women of any age are interested in low-commitment sex with a fat, sweaty middle-aged man.
🤣😂 yeah fair point....I looked up Honey Birdette. Fck me £120 for a bra! 🤣😂 Even my hubs isn't worth spending that for....they don't do my size anyway.
This is very funny and captures the reality of a great deal of open relationships, but in my experience you are mischaracterizing the attitude of the lonely man. In most cases he is, if not exactly happy for his wife's carnal successes relative to his own, then at least firmly convinced he has no exclusive claim to her. In other words, he didn't open up the relationship strictly for the pussy, he did it because he sincerely believed that's what open-minded tolerant people should do.
Only in Islington. Yorkshiremen wouldn't stand for this kind of nonsense...well, maybe the wet libtards inhabiting York, but certainly none of the men I've dated or know now.
It’s obvious that I lead a very dull life. I had never heard of Honey Birdette and had to look it up on Brave Search. Thank you, Christopher, for broadening my horizons.